Divorce

TOMORROW...

Nobody can go back

and start a new beginning, but...

Anyone can start today

and make a new ending.

Whether or not there is a happy ending depends on where you stop the story!

Sometimes you have to let go.

Proverbs 3:5-6  Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him and he shall direct thy paths.

 

Strong & Confident!

In the last year I’ve learned how strong and independent I can be.  When I found myself without a man in my life I was really scared wondering how I would do by myself all the things he used to help me do.

Well, on my own (with a little help from my kids and an occasional hired hand)  I’ve bought a car and a truck, gotten auto insurance, changed my home owners insurance, built and moved furniture, shoveled snow, almost completely cleaned out a whole church & school building full of tons  of stuff (with the help of no one but my children) (I forgot, I cleaned out two buildings. The first one I had the help of a big crew of my bros-in-law and several nephews.  Thanks, love and appreciate you guys so much!!)  carried heavy rocks & bags of soil, dug deep holes in the garden, fixed my waterfall, cleaned the garage, done household repairs, made major purchases, gotten a new floor in my basement and my yard mowed and trimmed every week, hired a contractor to build a new deck, run two small businesses and supported myself and my daughters,  taken over as head of the household and held the rest of my family together . . . and many other things that don’t come to mind right now.

I’m not scared any more!  I’m feeling good about myself now, confident and capable.  Just one of the plusses that has come out of a negative situation!!

 

The only thing consistent in life - is change!



The Impact of Divorce on Adult Children

“You’re an adult. This doesn’t affect you.”

On the contrary, the separation of parents affects a child even if that “child” is an adult with a home and family of their own.

Many adult children of divorce report that, even though they never intended to use it, the fact of their parents’ stable “home” was a touchstone they knew they could always return to if they needed.

Becoming the child of a split household requires a rapid change in a person’s world view and the way they perceive themselves. It can shatter a person's self-image as one of the “lucky ones” with an intact family and parents who were and are happy together, and forces a reevaluation of an adult’s perception of their childhood.

A good book on this subject: